"Please God, don't let her be Black," is what I read on Facebook and echoed on the subways and street corners. It seems everyone is talking about the 33-year-old woman who recently gave birth to octuplets in southern California. People are talking because not only did she give birth to eight babies at once, she already has six kids at home, no husband, no job and she still lives with her parents. Oh, and she used assisted reproductive technology with all of her pregnancies.
But no, Nadya Suleman is not Black. Even I have to admit I sighed in relief when I realized Ms. Suleman wasn't one of "my kind of people," because Black people just seem to always get slammed worse when it comes to un-wed, baby-mama drama and this is like baby-mama drama times 14! But we're not in the clear.
I have no idea what racial/ and or ethnic heritage Ms. Suleman claims, but it is clear by her surname, and the physical appearance of her parents (who have been seen in press photos) that she is not Caucasian. And as such, I'm guessing that whatever she says about her choices to parent, they will be viewed through the prism of race and ethnicity in a negative way. Does anyone disagree? Will Ms. Suleman be receiving offers for her own reality TV show and free trips to Disneyland, or hate mail from "real Americans" who view her as the reason this country is in crisis right now?
I, for one, will be keeping track of where this story goes and how it is reported. I don't envy Nadya Suleman one bit right now. But I wish her all the luck, time and energy she will need to raise 14 children all alone.