Wednesday, January 05, 2011

A Little Break...

Hi Meltingpot Readers,

I have not abandoned you. I am taking a break to recharge my writing mojo. Right now, my well is dry and I'm taking some time to spark the flames of my creative spirit. And to be honest, I'm finishing up the revisions on my YA novel. And I'm planning my new class on race and racism in the news. And I have nothing left to give to the Meltingpot at the end of the day. So, rather than post pictures of the dust bunnies that have taken over my house, I'm giving myself a little break.

I will be back on Monday January 17, which coincidentally is the day we celebrate Martin Luther King Jr.'s birthday. A fitting day for a glorious return I think.

In the meantime, feel free to use the comments section here to let me know what you'd like to hear more about on the Meltingpot in 2011.

I'm listening.



Heather said...

I'd like to hear more about your adoption!!!!!!!! :)
Oh, and in the meantime... I'm seriously interested in what you think of this:

peace back at ya,

Anonymous said...

I too am very interested in your response to the WSJ article. It's caused quite a stir on the internet.

I'd also like to hear your thoughts on
Sometimes, I wonder if our inability to heed the warning signs that are all around are due to our sense of what "violent" and "dangerous" look like. Such that when a young white man engages in threatening others, he's just talking and not serious.
Hope you are getting rest!

Kara Diggers said...

Hi Lori! I am a fan of your writing and hope you are enjoying your break!

I wanted your opinion on something and I understand if you don't respond. But I figured I would try since you are pretty open about your partner.

My fiancee is white and I am a black female. We have a strong relationship, hence us getting married, but a recent incident has stayed with me and concerns me.

I went to work with my partner recently. He works on a college campus and I needed to get some work done so I went with him. Now he does work at a pretty conservative [dare I say close minded] school but I was struck that when he was around his boss he simply let me walk on by and did not so much as make eye contact. He talked to his boss for nearly an hour before his boss left and he never introduced me, even though I was about 15 feet away. He didn't even talk to me.

That hurt my feelings. I immediately wondered if it was because I was black. We've been together nearly 6 years and I've never noticed him hesitant to be seen with me until now. When I asked him about it, he said "Oh I didn't know if you wanted to be introduced". He never said it, but I wonder if he did not introduce me out of fear of what his boss would think. I hope he wouldn't be concerned with something like that, but I'm trying to find a reason.

So I guess my question is, in your experience are there times where you specifically didn't introduce your spouse? Is this acceptable in certain scenarios if you think maybe the reception would be less than positive? Should that matter? Is this something you discussed beforehand-situations where it may be best to keep distance?

Sorry to hit you up Dear Abby style, but I wonder if it's something you've experienced or have insight on. Again, thanks for reading, hope you respond and can't wait for you to get back!