My husband takes his clothes to be dry-cleaned at a neighborhood shop. The owners are Korean and very nice and friendly. After using their services for close to a year my husband confessed to me that he thought the Korean wife, who handles the customers, always made complimentary comments about my younger son, and offered him candy, and ignored my older son. Here's the deal, my younger son is pale with loosely curled hair. My older son's skin is honey brown and tight curls cover his head. They're both beautiful, but you see where I'm heading with this right?
I told my husband he was probably imagining it. That the baby was still a baby and attracted more attention. I guess I didn't want to admit what might be happening. Two years passed and the behavior didn't change, according to my husband. What's worse, my older son started to notice. My husband was enraged (and please note, he's a teacher so he doesn't go to the dry-cleaner all that often) and wanted to say something to the woman, confront her on her preferential treatment, explain the painful legacy of the color complex in the African-American community (yes, my husband is a pale Spaniard). Do something!
I told him that what he should do is stop patronizing this shop, because that would have the greatest effect. Send a message. But maybe I was wrong.
What would you do?