A s a Black woman married to a Spaniard, I'm always interested to hear about other interracial couples. But what interests me more, are interracial/multicultural/ bilingual couples, because that's really what I'm dealing with. It's so much more than race that divides my husband and I. Our language, our culture, our homeland, it's all different. But that's not a bad thing. It's just different, which means a lot of explaining has to happen throughout the course of our relationship. Even though we've been together for almost twenty years now (yikes), sometimes I still have to ask him to repeat what he just said, mas despacio. Or I have to explain to him why he must wear a tie to Easter services at my grandmother's church.
So, of course I'm always eager to see how other people travel through similar situations. Today, there is a short essay on Vogue Black by an Italian woman, married to an African-American man. They live in Italy and she discusses how they are treated as an interracial couple in her native land.
This weekend, I saw the movie, Our Family Wedding, starring America Ferrera and Lance Gross. For those of you who haven't heard about the movie, it's all about the planning of the wedding of a young couple --she's Mexican, he's Black -- whose families don't exactly approve of their pairing. You know, because Black people and Latinos all hate each other. I was curious to see how the movie would deal with the issues of race and culture; if they would resort to gross stereotypes or really try to say something meaningful. Without giving too much away, I appreciated that the director and writer made the Black family quite wealthy but they lost points for making the Mexican father an auto mechanic and for the ridiculous scene which involves a live goat and a bottle of Viagra. I really wanted to like the movie because they made the effort to tell a different kind of love story and they did get some things right, but I just felt the whole film was miscast. That's all I'll say, but I would love to hear some other opinions on the film. And even though I'm not a big believer in affirmative action when it comes to buying movie tickets for bad films, I still want to support this movie because it offers options. It means somebody in Hollywood is willing to admit that the American public wants to see all of our stories on the big screen, not just the white ones with lots of special effects. (And please don't make me see big, blue Aliens in order to get my fill of interracial love stories.) Interestingly, I don't think there was one White person in the entire cast. Is that possible? Somebody go see the film and tell me if that's correct.
So, tell me, where else have you recently seen the conversation on interracial relationships expand beyond Black and White? Books, films, articles, TV shows? Don't keep it to yourself. Please share.