Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Would You Put Your Feet In Another Woman's Face?
I have a confession to make. It took me 20 years before I felt comfortable enough to get a pedicure. Not because I have issues with people touching me, but because I felt too uncomfortable putting my dirty feet in someone else's face. It just felt degrading and disrespectful. And then add to that, the vast majority of the women providing these services wherever I lived, were Asian immigrants who don't speak very much English, which I think compounds the feeling of exploitation.
In the last ten years I've gotten over this conflict of mine. Sort of. I can now get a pedicure, I just feel guilty while it's happening. Suffice it to say I tip really well and I say 'thank you' way too much. And truth be told, I average about one pedicure a year.
So, I've never really met anyone else who feels the same way as I do. As evidenced by the bustling pedicure business and the myriad of women with pretty painted toes. But, I recently shared my feelings with el esposo and guess what he said. "That's the same reason you'll never see me getting my shoes shined. I will never put my feet in another man's face and ask him to clean my shoes. I'll do it myself." And he was quite adamant about it.
So I guess that's why el esposo and I are kindred spirits. We think alike about the things that matter.
So, people. Anybody else out there get a little uncomfortable getting a pedicure? Or a shoe shine? Is this a legitimate concern or are we layering unnecessary emotion on top of a service economy? What do you think? I really want to hear some other opinions.