Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Black Women, White Men -- What's the Big Deal?
Hi Meltingpot Readers,
Yesterday I was reading The Root.com and I saw the following headline, "Black Women and the White Men They Love." Of course I clicked on what turned out not to be a story but a slideshow of famous Black women -- from Josephine Baker to Iman -- who have married White men.
My first reaction to the piece was surprise because there were a few women included who I had no idea had married across the color line. Like the actress Alfre Woodward. In fact, I was kind of inspired by the longevity of many of these unions, but not because of the racial differences, but simply because I know it's hard in Hollywood to keep the vows of matrimony. And that's when the discomfort set in. Why are we still highlighting marriages between Black women and White men as if it's worthy of some kind of anthropological analysis? Doesn't it just make you feel squirmy? I kind of do. I mean I don't go through my life thinking about el esposo as my White husband or my Spanish husband. He's just my husband. Am I being naive? Does everybody else view my marriage as some sort of racial experiment?
What do you think Meltingpot Readers? Is it time for us to stop 'highlighting' the extraordinary marriages across color lines? Or should we be showcasing them to prove to the world that when it comes to love, everybody is fair game? I'm torn, so I'm totally listening.